There are a million and one wedding to-do lists out there that will help you plan every dollar and minute spent on/at your wedding. However, as it is with most things in the wedding industry, they are focused on telling you what you need to buy and how you need to look. That is not the purpose of this to-do list, rather our intention is to help you focus on those specific moments throughout your wedding day that you don’t want to miss or rush through. We’re designating these as “Merried Moments” because just like our entire blog, they focus on the feels and not the looks or the stuff. It’s those moments on your wedding day when the emotions overflow and memories are made. These aren’t just moments you want captured on camera (although that doesn’t necessarily hurt), but these are the moments you want to capture with your mind and heart (yeah we know it’s cheesy - but it’s true). With that said, we proudly present our “Merried Moments” Wedding Day To-Do List!
1. Hug Your Mom & Dad (Or Your Mother/Father Figure)
Everyone needs the comfort of their parents embrace especially on their wedding day. Sometimes your parents are the only ones who truly understand the gravity of the decision you are making for your future. A hug from mom or dad (or that special mother/father figure) is the perfect prescription for cold feet. And you wouldn’t be here today without them so make sure you tell them with a loving hug or kiss before you get hitched!
2. Remember the First Look
This can happen as you walk down the aisle or before. The important thing is to designate at least one moment to take in how hot ya’ll look on your wedding day. Brides, I know walking down the aisle can make you a nervous wreck, but try your best to lock eyes with your groom/bride (and not their shoes)! I guarantee you don’t want to miss his or her first look reaction!
3. Embrace The One “Giving You Away”
Now even though you should lock eyes with your future spouse, that doesn’t mean you should forget about the one escorting you down the aisle. While the tradition of giving the bride away is a bit outdated, so many brides still want someone who loves and supports them standing by their side as they walk down the aisle. But sometimes when they reach the end of the aisle, in this moment of excitement, the bride jumps straight into their fiancés arms leaving their escort behind. That is why the team of Vow Exchange officiants will always remind our brides that if they have someone special escorting them down the aisle, take a moment to hug, kiss, or even high five that person once you’ve reached the altar together. P.S. Even if you skip having a precessional or just want to walk down the aisle solo, you can have someone special sitting in the first row simply stand for a hug before the ceremony begins.
4. The First Kiss
I’m not talking about the one at the altar, but rather, the first kiss you share behind closed doors after being pronounced married. This is one of the best moments of your entire wedding day - or your entire life for that matter! Kissing in front of the crowd is one thing, but kissing your spouse in private as the official-ness of your marriage washes over you is a feeling that can’t be described.
5. Pass the Mic
You don’t even necessarily need a microphone! The point here is that you should invite the people you love to “take the stage” and say a little something on your wedding day. This can be as easy as circling up and saying a few words or it can be planned out speeches with champagne toasting flutes. Either way this is a guaranteed crowd pleaser and often the couple’s favorite part of the night too.
6. Sway in your Spouse’s Arms
Whether it’s during a formal first dance at your reception or back at the hotel room that night, every couple should take a moment to dance for the first time as newlyweds. Even if you don’t have an ounce of rhythm in your body, swaying in your spouse’s arms is an absolute requirement on our wedding day list.
7. Address your new “Husband” or “Wife”
Honestly this is the number one thing people forget about on their wedding day and we think that’s a shame. Our advice is to really focus on the first time you get to use your spouse’s new title because it really is a once in a lifetime moment. While the newness of the term “husband” and “wife” (or “hubby” and “wifey”) won’t wear off for a while, the first time you use it should be special and not in any way mundane.
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